I am an advocate for parenting equality after a couple separates with children. What you think might be an easy divorce can turn ugly quickly and the children are more times than not, in the middle. Children deserve both parents. Just because the parents divorced means the children divorce their parents.
Parent alienation can quickly become evident. What is parental alienation you ask? It is when one parent uses strategies such as brainwashing, negative speaking and decreased visitation to distance the child from the other parent. The child then becomes estranged from the parent for weeks, months or even years because of the psychological manipulation.
Symptoms of Parental Alienation
Child shows hatred towards alienated parent
Child doesn't have strong reasoning or justification for criticisms
Child has unwavering support for the alienator
Hatred expands into extended family, not just Mom or Dad
Child doesn't feel guilty about mistreating the alienated parent
April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month
PAS is considered a form of child psychological abuse. Join us April 25th to create visibility to the issue that parent alienation deprives the right for the child to love and be loved by the whole family. Bubbles of Love Day symbolizes "as bubbles flow freely, so should the natural love that a child has for both parents and both sides of their family".
Dr. Amy J.L. Baker has a PhD in Development Psychology from Teachers College of Columbia University. She is a nationally and internationally recognized expert in parental alienation and psychological maltreatment of children. She is the author or co-author of 8 books and over 115 articles. Some of her books are Adult children of parental alienation, surviving parental alienation, co-parenting with a toxic ex, and the high conflict custody battle. She has conducted trainings for legal and mental health professionals around the country.
In this video, Amy speaks to whether the separation from a child is alienation or estrangement.
Signs of Parental Alienation
Preventing the child from seeing or talking to the other parent
Plan tempting activities during the other parent's time
Frequently bend or break custody guidelines
Divulge unnecessary details to the child
Keeping medical records, activities, report cards and information a secret
As a former Private Investigator for more than 20 years, Susan had an inside look at the court room and developed a unique, no-fluff perspective to high-conflict divorce situations. This technique has helped hundreds of men and women, from Real Housewives to Wall Street to Congress.
What to do if you are a Targeted Parent
1. Document! Keep extensive records of events.
2. Hire a lawyer familiar with PAS
3. Hire a reunification counselor.
4. Ask the court to assign a GAL
5. Request the child to have a private interview with the judge.
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